A Game-Changer

Had a pretty enlightening conversation with a friend last night - she's dealing with a friendship that is truly being tested. She recognized early that her friend didn't attend anymore of her house-gatherings, social dinners or visits when she recently started dating a guy, who I can admit is a pretty decent commodity.  Her question to me was, "Why aren't we happy for each other when good things happen?" - good question.

I can only speak for myself, but I'm generally happy for everyone. Long ago, I considered myself a supporter (that ride or die friend) - if you liked it, I liked it, if you hated it, I hated it.........but is that the right way of showing support in your friendships? 

Don't get me wrong, I'm not always gung-ho about my SFs (sistah-friends) decisions, but I do support them and that's important.  I listen when they need an ear and I try to be that filter to sort out all the issues they have in order to come to a sensible decision.  Lord knows I've worn their eardrums out.

But the truth is, we all deserve to be happy and to have a circle of friends cheering in our corner.

Today, evaluate your social circle - - everyone deserves a few cheerleaders on their team.

 

Building Relationships: Business vs. Personal

Just had a thought - - I think it's very important to build relationships that are sustainable.  I've been in the HR profession for over 5 years and I've grown from a role of administrative support in human resources to a HR Business Consultant.  I have days where I am tried on my experience and my knowledge.  There are days when my phone rings off the hook for advice and direction.  My career has proven to be very therapeutic for me at times.  As I listen to employees, managers and directors voice their concerns about how they interact with people each day, I feel a sense of resolution in my own life when trying to solve problems and think about the relationships that I have with business partners and friends and wonder they consider me as a sustainable asset to them.

sustainable:

1. : capable of being sustained
2. : of, relating to, or being a method of harvesting or using a resource so that the resource is not depleted or permanently damaged b : of or relating to a lifestyle involving the use of sustainable methods

Do you find having sustainable relationships in your life rewarding or a burden?

Understanding My Purpose

Last night, I had a long talk with a dear friend and confessed to her that I was struggling with what my purpose was in life.  She mentioned that she thought my personification of a good mother was what she saw in me and that could possibly be my purpose.  I thought about it after our conversation.  As I laid in bed, I asked the Lord, what did He see fit for me.  My fears tend to heighten when I hear of a loss - - former schoolmates, former co-workers and more importantly, family members.  Cancer hits my heart, I think of the survivors, I think of those that lost their battle......I think of me and I think of my girls. 

I know the Lord has our life already written and I want to live up to what is in the Book of Life. I want to make and share my mark with others - that could be my purpose. I want to be transparent, allow others to learn from me and to fulfill the destiny of what my legacy will be for my girls, their children and their children.

So, at 40, my story starts now...........................