Had a pretty enlightening conversation with a friend last night - she's dealing with a friendship that is truly being tested. She recognized early that her friend didn't attend anymore of her house-gatherings, social dinners or visits when she recently started dating a guy, who I can admit is a pretty decent commodity. Her question to me was, "Why aren't we happy for each other when good things happen?" - good question.
I can only speak for myself, but I'm generally happy for everyone. Long ago, I considered myself a supporter (that ride or die friend) - if you liked it, I liked it, if you hated it, I hated it.........but is that the right way of showing support in your friendships?
Don't get me wrong, I'm not always gung-ho about my SFs (sistah-friends) decisions, but I do support them and that's important. I listen when they need an ear and I try to be that filter to sort out all the issues they have in order to come to a sensible decision. Lord knows I've worn their eardrums out.
But the truth is, we all deserve to be happy and to have a circle of friends cheering in our corner.
Today, evaluate your social circle - - everyone deserves a few cheerleaders on their team.
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